Ask Dorothy: Patience Is Bitter But It’s Fruit Is Sweet

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Ask Dorothy #2

Interviews have made people cynical. So many people are rejected for jobs that they have lost faith in the recruitment process. In a perfect world you would be invited to a job interview, meet the recruiter and hiring manager, have a great interview and hear back from the recruiter in a few days whether you got the job or not. If you didn’t get the job but the recruiter and hiring manager thought you were great, they would keep your resume and think of you when another opportunity opens up down the line.

“Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow – that is patience.”

We all know that this scenario does not always happen but the fact is that it still happens. Good recruiters keep resumes on file once they meet a great candidate. For whatever reason you didn’t get Job A doesn’t mean you’re not qualified for Job B. If you stay positive, polite, professional, ask for feedback after you were told that you did not get the job and most importantly BE PATIENT you might end up like Belinda. This is her story:


Thank you for the article it made me feel much better after being rejected for a position I was certain I had in the bag.
I was actually contacted by the manager to apply for the job and had an interview the next day, I thought it went well, it lasted over an hour and I had a great rapport with the 2 interviewers but I got a phone call that afternoon saying I didn’t get the job.
The manager rang me with the news and I did have a chance to ask for feedback, the reply really confused me, he said I gave a great interview and not to change anything about my approach, that I was articulate and well presented, I answered the questions thoroughly and I had researched the company well, infact he said he really had no reason not to hire me and that it was unfortunate there were not 2 positions available. Was I just a fill in interview? Your feedback would be appreciated:)

My Response

Hi Belinda,
When the manager tells you that you did great and should not change anything isn’t actually great feedback because if you were so great why didn’t you get the job. The reason was probably because they had a target hire or he/she was pressured into hiring someone’s relative. The only thing you can take out of this fake interview is that this manager thought you presented yourself well and that you shouldn’t change anything re: your interview style/approach. Not many people get that sort of feedback and I’m sure this made you feel great and even a little more confident for your next interview. Thanks for sharing your experience.


Hi Dorothy,
Just letting you know that I was contacted by the manager who said I gave a fantastic interview but “sorry” no job, I was offered a position at another location and start tomorrow, I guess it pays to put your best foot forward at all times (even when your feeling down on another rejection) and never discount that no after a failed interview.

My Response

Congratulations Belinda! Obviously you did give a fantastic interview and the company was smart enough to keep your resume in their mind when another position came up. This is what every company should do. Good luck in your new role and Congratulations again!!!!

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3 thoughts on “Ask Dorothy: Patience Is Bitter But It’s Fruit Is Sweet

  1. Andrew
    September 1, 2011 at 11:53 pm

    I actually find myself in this very situation – except that it hasn’t happened once, it’s happened three times with different companies in the past couple of months now. One of them has me doing work on a probationary basis until they make up their find whether to make it full time or not.

    1. September 1, 2011 at 11:55 pm

      Hi Andrew,
      Depending on the job it’s common for a company to offer a temp or part-time contract for an X amount of time before deciding to make it a full-time role. Just make sure you’re paid for your work and make sure that you do the BEST that you can because you need to impress them and show them that your job is important enough to have it full-time. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.

  2. Melany
    October 27, 2011 at 11:11 pm

    I have been contacted by the HR recruiter last Sept. 15. She did not even phone screen me, she asked if I can come for an interview the following day which was a Friday. She said she was sorry for the late notice because the manager interviewing me was going on a business trip oversees that following Monday. I went and thought that I did good in the interview since the manager already mentioned that I will get the chance to interview with the other managers and will tour the facility. I was so happy because I thought I easily passed the first interview. I sent a thank you letter after three days and got another call from another HR personnel to schedule for a second interview. So we scheduled it on the 26th of September.
    I interviewed with the operations manager and he toured me to the production floor. So we went back to his office and discussed more on what areas the company needs help with. Before we finished I was surprised because he was already mentioning benefits (401k, vacations/sick-leaves,medical insurance etc.) and asked me what salary range I was looking for. I was stupid I guess coz I should have asked what the position pays for instead of throwing a number at him. He mentions that their hiring process takes a long time, the first step alone which is the background check takes 3 weeks, so he says “Don’t be surprised if it takes a long time before you hear from us”. And after the interview with him I interviewed with 2 more managers on that same day. I got so busy I forgot to send him a thank you letter. So on the third week of waiting I finally send him a thank you letter / follow up letter. I never got a response from him. I called the second HR personnel who scheduled my interview and she says that she did not hear anything yet on the position, all she knows is that that position is still vacant. I tried calling the HR recruiter who first called me but all I get is the voicemail. I want to follow up again, I know they are very busy and I don’t want to be a nuisance.
    Your thoughts please. I’m really getting frustrated with the wait, I really love the position and I really would love to join that company because I see a lot of opportunities for growth. Should I move on?